by Megha Nayar Ben Sweet When your father asks you to “be a man,” what he really means to say is — that you must like soccer, that all guys must like soccer—despite its violence or perhaps because of it, that crying is not allowed if you lose, that tears are banned in boys after middle school, that a little pushing and shoving hurt no one, that injury is a rite of growth—never mind which Bible prescribed so, that boys must wear their bruises as a badge of honour bold; that yo